Relationships: “Once alone with a man in a room, he wants to sleep with you at all cost”

 I think that too much emphasis is placed on sex these
days and I’m a bit cynical about relationships. This
worries me a lot. I am a 28-year-old girl and have
lost count of the number of men I have slept with.
Most of these men I would ordinarily not sleep with,
but you discover that once you are left alone with a
man in a room, he wants to sleep with you at all cost.
And the lies these men tell! Majority of them make
me believe I was the type of girl they’d always been
looking for as a wife. As soon as I get pregnant, they
won’t want to know. I had a few abortions as a result
as I don’t believe in a single parent family.
Now I’m completely off sex and it worries me. I think
I am a bit cynical about relationships and it worries
me also to be this way.
Diana, by e-mail.
Dear Diana,
I think you are a bit depressed as a result of all the
disappointments you’ve had in the past, hence the
cynicism and indifference towards sex. It takes two to
have a meaningful relationship and it shouldn’t make
you feel guilty you’d been let down in the past.
I advise you to take things easy and be less eager to
trust every man professing to be in love with you. At
your age, you should be mature enough to know what
you want from a relationship and to discourage
opportunists.
In the meantime, concentrate on simply enjoying life
with friends and relations until a serious man shows
up. When he does, take time to know him better
before committing to him.